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How to deal with Abusive Parents?
How to deal with abusive parents who take advantage of their power?
Does Allah accept a mother's (parent's) dua against the children?
Question:
Sheikh whenever my mother gets upset even for a small thing she could speak ill towards us, hurtful things. How can we stop her from this? Even if we try to tell her nicely if she is not angry or share to her lectures about this it seems that she never changes or realize that we can be hurt whenever she says negative things.She never apologises to us coz for her she’s our mother.
Answer:
People have different tests in this world. Some are tested in their health. There are those who undergo dialysis every other day. Others get chemotherapy treatment, not knowing if they will make it or not. There are those who face different calamities such as wars, insecurity, poverty, famine, earthquakes, volcanoes etc. I know they all wish they had your calamity.
Allah has tested you with your mother! There is nothing you can do except being dutiful, respectful and obedient. If you succeed in doing this, Allah will reward you with paradise. But if you fail, you would have failed your test from Allah.